Six weeks ago I asked you what your biggest challenges were in life and how I could be more of service to you. You told me you struggled with sadness, with self-confidence, with accepting the circumstances outside of your control. You needed help with the bigger picture. You wanted to have more clarity and purpose in your life. You wanted to know who God created you to be, and you told me one of your deepest desires was to find out what you are called to contribute to the world.
You also wanted to know how to listen and hear the whispers of your heart. You wondered how you could continue on your path without constantly comparing yourself to others. You were interested in tools that would help you balance family and creative aspirations. You desperately needed tips on living in the magic of everyday life. You were curious about marriage and what it takes to create a relationship that brings out the best in one another. You asked for more encouragement, personal stories from me, battle strategies to get over obstacles and hard times, and real hope to come fully alive.
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with me. I’ve taken your requests to heart and poured myself into this new site which is dedicated to answering these questions. Before we dive into the meat and potatoes of romance and adventure material, I wanted to share with you my highest hopes (and prayers) for you…
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Howard Thurman, theologian 1899-1981
I want you to come alive. I want you to live a life of romance and adventure. I want you to fight the good fight for the things that matter most to you– your family, your friends, your community, your still-hidden dreams. I want you to honor who you are as a mother, as a wife, as a friend, as a daughter and as a woman with ambitions and good desires of her own.
I want you to know you are a warrior princess and yes, this life is hard and every day has it’s own battles, but You, dear brave and beautiful girl, have what it takes to survive. More than survive, thrive.
I want you to carefully consider Richard Bach’s words: “You are never given a dream without also being given the power to make it come true.” This means listen up! Your heart is inviting you via it’s hopes and whimsical visions to become who you were always created to become.
I want you follow Dolly Parton’s advice: Find out who you are and do it on purpose.
I want you to wise up and understand Resistance is real, and there is a fierce battle for your heart, but you are stronger than the enemy and you have what you need within you and around you to fight the good fight and win. I don’t swear much but I think it’s completely appropriate to call the enemy a little bitch, because that’s what it is. It’s a coward and it can only take from you what you willingly give. That little bitch has tried to take you out in the area you were most meant to shine.
Think about it. The places in your life you have experienced the most shame and disappointment aren’t coincidences– they are strategic hits. I want you to go back to those places and fight back with the help of Truth, and remember that Love wins, and when you have Love on your side, you win. Everytime. I want you to take what I am saying as fact and use these facts as power to overcome all the things that have held you back in the past. Shame and fear and disappointment aren’t your prisons anymore. Your victory is long overdue.
I want you to climb a mountain and see what beautiful country lies just on the otherside of your fear and shame and disappointment. And I want you to go there, full speed.
I want you to breathe, and breathe deep, and enjoy your breathing. I want you to invite grace & peace in your life. I want you to fall in love daily with everyday moments. I want your default to be compassion and patience for yourself just as it is compassion and patience for your best friend. I want you to make decisions out of love not fear. And I want you to know, deep in the marrow of your bones, that Julian of Norwich’s prayer is for you and true: All will be well, all will be well, every little thing will be well.
I want you to choose a great story. I want the arch of your narrative to be redemption. I want you to do the full-on work it takes to fill in the gaps between dreams and visions and reality. I want you to move forward diligently, with just the right balance of heavenly grace and mulish resolve, to get what you want out of this life with integrity, so you can feel good about who you have become in the process. I want you to leave a mark in the way only you could leave a mark. I want one of your great legacies to be love.
I want you to know what is at stake. I want you to know for your kid’s sake, for husband’s sake, for the sake of anyone and everyone who loves you and is invested in your life, just how important it is that you come alive. Wholeheartedly alive. This life of romance and adventure it’s not a luxury. It’s your destiny.
I want you to imagine that a King has called you wondrous and has called you, by name, to wonderous things. I want you believe that you have been chosen and indeed are being equipped right now to live your one small and significant life as a love poem to the world.
I want you to know that life is a poem. Today is the poetry making and you can transform and continue your world in love. Welcome to true romance and meaningful adventure.